Origins of Hatred

There is no way to come around it. There is hatred on both sides. And a lot.
Perhaps not all of us feel it, perhaps not all of them feel it, but enough people on both sides feel it, enough to keep the confrontation going, enough to keep a high level of anti-peace atmosphere in too-big circles of the population.
Where does this hatred come from? Is it the same on both sides of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict?
I believe that hatred has two main origins. Both are found in all people. Both are found in both sides of the conflict. Each side has a more dominant reason for his hatred.
These reasons are known as Fear and Revenge.

For most humans, being in a state of fear from a known individual, group or thing for a continuous period of time, will eventually invoke hatred for the cause of fear. Fear is a feeling the human body adopted during it evolution in order to avoid dangerous situations, in order to survive. The fear is a sensation we wish to avoid, a sensation that brings extreme uneasiness to the bearer, a sensation of personal failure - since we were not able to control the situation, since it was not obvious to all, especially to us, that we had the upper-hand in the situation.

This fear, this failure, this awful feeling, is a sensation we learn to hate.

This is what happened to the Israelis relating to Arabs as a whole, or facing them as individuals.
For decades, for more than a century, the Arabs tried to "Convince" the Jews that started building their lives in Israel that this is not a place for them. There were uncountable number of incidents in which the Arabs harmed the Jews or their little possessions in this harsh sun-beaten country. In many cases Jews were killed by the Arabs, many times they were Lynched by mobs. Sometimes it was a single person's enterprise. Sometimes it was organized. It peaked most noticeable in the declaration of independence from the state of Israel in 1948, when the just-born state of Israel was attacked simultaneously by all it neighboring countries and more: By the Egyptians, Jordanians, Syrians, Lebanese, Iraqis and many of the Arabs living inside and outside the new borders of the new country.
Since this peak of assault on the Jews in Israel, with the fresh, horrible realization of the fate of the Jews in Europe during the Holocaust, due all the wars inflicted upon the state of Israel by Arab nations, Arab nation deeds or Arab terrorist organization, the Jewish people all around the world and especially in Israel learned to fear the Arabs... not a numbing fear, but a fear that naturally became hatred.

Many of the Arabs that lived inside the frontiers of the new state of Israel had fled from their homes. Some will claim that they rightfully fled the approach of the Israeli army during the war of 1948. Others will admit they over-reacted, or vainly refused to take part with the Jews in the state of Israel. The result is the same. Tens or even hundreds of thousands of Arabs that lived in the area that became the Israeli State fled their homes to settle in refugee camps to the south and north of the state of Israel. They had left farms, homes in cities for small, crowded refugee camps with not many conditions to enable prosperity. With little chance for a descent contenting life.
They had fled there knowing this will be a temporary situation. That soon the state of Israel will be whipped out by the strong, numerous Arab armies. But they were wrong. And ever since they were not able to get back to their original lives. Some wouldn't, others couldn't.

Since then they started hating the state of Israel, and the Jews all around the world for taking their land.
Over the years, during the 1967 war, the West Bank and the Gaza Stripe were occupied by Israel. Territories including many of the refugees that fled the state of Israel in 1948. Now they were under Israeli law, but not the civil law as for the rest of the Jews or Arabs that remained in the state of Israel. They lived under martial law. They now lived in the state they had fled from. Worst state than they had fled from, since now they had no possessions they left behind, no farms, no houses in the cities, no stores, no citizenship, no status, but only despair. And they wanted retribution.
They have seen how prosperous the lives of the Israelis became. Both of Jews and Arabs that remained in Israel. And they knew deep in their hearts that they could have those as well. That they should have had those as well. And not the Jews.
Then started the confrontations to throw the conquerors outside the Palestinian territories. To be relieved from the ruling of the Israeli state. To be independent. This confrontation brought many casualties to both sides. But mainly to the Palestinians. And they demanded retribution. Revenge.
This revenge, for their pain during the warfare against Israel. For their lack of prosperity. For their lack of vision for the future. For their homes they have left behind.
All this pain, all this revenge, all became hate.

As stated before, fear and revenge fuel hatred on both sides.
Palestinians also fear Israelis. They fear their soldiers. For most this is the only face of the Israelis they see. They fear the Israeli Air Force flying at nights over their homes. They fortresses. They fear their guns and bombs.
Israelis want to revenge the Palestinians for their dead ones. For hurts inflicted on them, their families, ancestors.
But those are the minor causes for the hatred that is fueling the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Hatred running so deep that you don't even believe this conflict has an acceptable solution. That causes the talks to start considering maybe talking to one another so hard to get started... So hopeless...